Getting clear on my values

Updated: Nov 26, 2019

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself WHY?

Why do I do what I do?

Why do I want certain things?

Why do I fear this or that?

Most of us go about our lives without ever asking ourselves these critical questions. We tend to operate on autopilot, moving mindlessly through our day-to-day and simply following what we are told by external sources. It is no wonder that we end up in careers and relationships that do not satisfy us, despite living in this Western world where we have the privilege to pursue our wildest dreams. We are left to feel out of touch with ourselves and disconnected from our higher purpose.

However, analyzing our wishes, desires, and limiting beliefs arm us with self-awareness. Gaining personal understanding through self-inquiry enables us to make informed choices. By aligning with our values we obtain a sense of agency that spreads across all areas of our lives. For example, having an understanding of my belief-systems made voting in the recent election a swift and easy process. Since I already knew what I stand for as an individual, I was able to objectively analyze what party’s platform best matched my own.

Furthermore, evaluating our WHYs help to foster healthy self-esteem. When I look at all that I have accomplished and I make choices that align with my purpose, I feel good about myself. This builds personal trust and provides clarity. It makes it easier to identify the times when I am not acting in accordance with my values and enables me to correct those behaviours to immediately jump back into alignment.

Every few months or so I carve out some time to re-evaluate my why. Sometimes this unfolds as a full blown vision-board crafting session, pinning inspirational things on Pinterest, meditating, or sharing thoughts with a friend. However my favourite method is just sitting down with my journal and a pen and letting my mind wander. Getting these thoughts out of my head and on a piece of paper make them all the more real, plus it is something tangible that I can revisit later when I need a reminder.

I ask myself questions like,

• what are my values?

• what makes me who I am?

• what am I most proud of about myself?

• where are my opportunities for growth?

By asking myself these questions I am able to manifest my dreams and harness my greatest potential.

Manifestation occurs when something theoretical or abstract becomes real. The key ingredients for manifestation are clarity and detachment: Clarity is cultivated through defining what you actually want to manifest, such as good grades in school or positive interpersonal relationships. Taking time to formulate a concrete understanding of who you are provides clarity on what you are manifesting.

Detachment comes from knowing that you are moving towards your manifestation with every action that you take. The detachment aspect is actually putting in the work to move towards your goals and having faith in your power. Being clear on our values holds us accountable and keeps us in alignment, allowing the process of manifestation to flow.

Now, manifestation doesn't just happen with the snap of our fingers or by waving a magic wand. I like to think about it this way: the energy that I put into something is the energy that I will receive back. In other words, hard work = success. The moral of the story here is that understanding what you are actually working towards and why it is important to you will steer you in the right direction and add fuel to your fire.

Below I have attached a little values prompt that I created for you so that you can begin to get clear on what makes you YOU. When I feel lost or unmotivated I turn back to my WHY, and now you can too. Curl up with a cozy blanket, a cup of warm tea, and your favourite journal, and start investigating your why. Share your answers with me in the comments below, and let me know what practices you have for cultivating personal-understanding.

And with that, my friends, I send you love and light.



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